Autism, exercise, health, special kid, Uncategorized

Your health and a special need kid.

I know some families who are having special need kids and being very close to them make me feel little worried about their health both physical and mental. Whenever I raise this concern to them they make me shut saying they have much more important work to do then their health. But recently I meet a lady in her late 50’s during my morning run and started talking during the conversation I got to know she is having a special kid and raising him all alone.

Few points which I understood and would like to raise here so that people don’t do the same mistake. Believe me, learning from others mistake is the most important and reliable way of making life easy when it doesn’t look like one. Take good care of your mind and body. Do whatever makes you feel happy and light.

  1. She is raising her kid alone. Don’t fight with your partner. Together you can handle the situation much better. With a special kid, I have seen partners fighting and blaming each other. Don’t do that, this cant be changed but you guys can make life beautiful by being together.
  2. Don’t be alone. Take help of the community and family. Don’t hesitate in asking help.
  3. Think positive. Yes, the most important thing is to think positive and healthy. Thinking has a great power and my experience says positive thinking has the power of the nuclear bomb. If you think positive you are going to win.
  4. Exercise daily. Yes, take good care of yourself. Take out one or half hour for yourself. Get out in the open air and breath. You have to be healthy so that you can focus on your kid’s health.
  5. Don’t compare. Yes, don’t compare your kid with others. We all know every kid is different but then too we do the mistake of comparing them. This will make you feel depressed.
  6. Meditate. Meditation has some great powers hidden inside it. Meditation will not only make you feel light but it will fill you with some magical positive energy.

 

 

 

Autism, Autism spectrum, marriage, special kid

Special kid and solution

I have seen people fighting and struggling when they have a special kid. of course life will not be the same but you can try to get a life of peace and slowly happiness will take entry to it. What to do? how to deal with the situation is the few questions which take deep entry to our mind.
Couple often blame each other and this is where problem starts to come. One solution which might help is to “talk”.

It’s painful and I know it’s not easy to understand but you have to be strong. Talk to your partner and help each other. Talking resolve maximum issues of this world. Question which comes in the mind what will happen to the kid once we are not in this world or around? Yes, I have few friends who are having special kids and I have seen them often struggling with this question. Again the solution is to talk with your partner and think on this instead of being sad and bitter. Built a strong support system and community around you. Be ready to offer help and be the first to be kind.

Sometimes our pain is so much that we ignore feelings of other. Be sensible and think about the child. How to make childs life better and independent? Look out for the school and teachers who can help the kid. Very important is to take some time out for yourself. Get out and do the thing you want to do and which will make you happy. Remember, if you are fine then only you can take care of your kid.

 

Autism, Autism spectrum, Early detection, Sign of Autism,, Uncategorized

Autism Early signs

Autism if rectified early helps a lot  in getting proper treatment. We parents have to be careful and should make sure to track development of our babies. Normally 2 to 3 months delay is normal and we should not worry but if milestones are taking time to be achieved we should see the doctor or an expert for their advice. Below are the milestones generally achieved by babies under one year and on their 1st birthday they should be doing them all.

  • Make eye contact, such as looking at you when being fed or smiling when being smiled at
  • Respond to his or her name, or to the sound of a familiar voice
  • Follow objects visually or follow your gesture when you point things out
  • Point or wave goodbye, or use other gestures to communicate
  • Make noises to get your attention
  • Initiate or respond to cuddling or reach out to be picked up
  • Imitate your movements and facial expressions
  • Play with other people or share interest and enjoyment
  • Notice or care if you hurt yourself or experience discomfort

As I always say every baby is different so there may be a delay of 2 to 4 months in achieving the above milestones.