Advertisement, Celebrates, Dark skin, Fair and lovely, Fair skin

My dark friend.

When I was small during my summer holidays I use to go to meet my grandma and spend my holidays there. During those days I made a friend her name was “Rajkumari”. She was dark and use to work in the fields. We use to spend almost all the evening’s together exploring village and she use to ask me alot of questions related to my school and what I do.

Once she asked me if I can help her and she asked for a fairness cream, that cream was too popular in those days and they use to show advertisement on television saying anyone can get fair if they use it. For a village girl it was expensive but worth trying for the fair skin. I got it from my grandma’s cupboard and gave it to her.

We were was too small to understand that a fairness cream can’t change our complexion and thus she was very hopeful. My vaccation was over and I was back to my place. Next year when I reached again to my village and met Rajkumari she was of same color. She was waiting for me to come so that she can show me the flat tube of the cream. She told me “nothing changed” and I promised to get the tube again from my grandma’s cupboard.

Why I wrote this is how a village girl had hope of fair skin just because she saw the advertisement saying so. Millions of us had such dreams but we get fooled by companies. Cosmetic companies hire big stars to do advertisement for them and thus fool many of us. Celebraties do these ad just for money forgetting they do have some social responsibilities. Just because they say people start believing and using.

I will not say weather it’s eithical or not but they kill the dream of many for getting a fair skin. Celebrates do the ad just for money and I can bet you guys they themselves had never used that product.

My friend was from village but because of the advertisement she thought of using it and hoped for a fair skin. Many of us can relate to this. Whatever skin we have is perfect only important is to be healthy and fit.

 

 

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Kareena Kapoor, post pregnancy, weight loss

Celebrates and their weight loss!

Sounds interesting that a bollywood star lost so much of weight and that too so fast and you after trying so hard had not lost a single kg. Hold on, don’t go by what you hear and what they do.

A friend of mine wanted to loose all her pregnancy weight just like Kareena Kapoor and because she was unable she went through tough mind situations.

Have you ever thought how many helps they have? There are so many people present just to help them to be in a shape they are. We don’t have that privilege so instead of doing as quick as them you can go slow and be kind to yourself.

Secondly they are in show business they have to look good and be in news. They blame media for interfering in their private life but truth is their own PR agencies call media guys to click them and make them in news. Off course sometimes they too need some privacy.

Instead of following their lifestyle if you follow your passion and build your own lifestyle that will make more sense and value. Don’t be in hurry of loosing your weight or getting back to your shape.

Start small and follow a plan which suits you. Consult your doctor if required. It will take time but this will make you strong.

 

Cheating, Kids, marriage

Cheating in marriage

Are you staying with a partner who have no interest in you and you guys are only staying together for your kids. Might be true or maynot be.

I have a friend of mine let me call her ‘Snow’. Snow has a very good marriage till she discovered her husband was cheating on her. He use to chat/call multiple girls and even visit them. She was broken and wanted separation but she had a year old daughter because of which she wanted all to be fine and get her husband back. She was ready to forgive him. Things were not good but because of family pressure and kids they gave their marriage a second chance.

They had another kid after few years and after getting this news I thought all must be good but then all was not. Snow was still compromising and her husband was not serious for their relationship. Now she is making her mind to come out of this relationship and to only think about herself. She thought about her kids and gave her relationship a second chance.

I was never supported her decision of giving her relationship a second chance but I too understood not giving a chance will be not good for her kid.

What to do when we have a similar situation? Relax and talk to your partner. Make sure you tell him what is troubling you and is he ready to give up his habit which is troubling you and your relationship. If you find things are not going as you were expecting then involve people from family and friends. There are marriage counselors and you should talk to them.

All is fine but make sure you see love in your relationship. If love is missing you are probably in a wrong relationship. It might be a hard decision for you but you have to let it go.

Write me your experiences and let me know what you think of a marriage without love but with kids.

depression, Feelings, Mental health

Breakup

Yes, feeling of being alone is something which I can’t explain. Days looks longer and every second passes like an hour. Feeling of not doing anything and keep looking straight for long. Life looks like coming to an edge and feeling of zero. Feeling of being alone and trying to find fault in self. All these where my emotions after my teen breakup.

I was scattered, it took time for me to get back to the world of life. All the help and friends were of no help because my mind was closed and stuck. I came out of that phase with effort and after loosing much of my time. What made me get out of that phase?

Off course time and situation helped me but I will give more credit to my positive thinking and my will power. To accept the situation and not try to move faster or run away from the phase.

I started doing things which I loved the most- watching comedy shows either on TV or internet. Many comedian made me feel that what I am doing is so stupid and so natural. They made me feel without hurting my feeling. I accepted my breakup with a big laugh and moved on.

Made many friends and got in touch with old ones. Started doing things for which I never had time as I was busy!

Just remember life is too small to be sad and unhappy. Go see the world around you. We are lucky and this is the reason to celebrate.

 

 

 

 

depression, how to start, Mental health

Mental Health- how do I get back to life?

Mental health is something which we often ignore. Either we don’t  understand what we are going through or we don’t accept it. As a lady who has gone through this can understand what goes inside us. What made me write today is I see alot of us going through this but we don’t understand or take it seriously. How do we understand when to ask for help?

When I was in college I went through a bad depression phase, given I was from a small town so I was clueless about my situation and there was not much help available on internet too but when I write now there are so much of help on internet and people are now open to talk about it too. I had lost much because of mine mental health but I am a fortunate person to come out of it. What helped in my healing? I was never on any medication given I never knew what was happening to me.

Problem with depression or low mental health is- you don’t feel like doing anything. To get pussed and start doing anything becames a big deal. I still remember how I started my first step towards my healthy life. One day when I got up all my roommates were off to class and I was only one sleeping and it was around 3 PM. That clicked me so hard and I made a promise to myself saying “I will not repeat this and let me help myself to come out of this”.

  • I started small and slowly that converted to my habit. I started getting up early around 5 in the morning and started going out for long walks. It helped me like magic. I use to walk really long thinking something. Slowly my thoughts got a positive shape but it took few months. I had failed many a times before making my walks really long.
  • Eat and drink clean. I am a non smoker and that too helped me. Normally I have seen people getting into bad habits just because they are into depression. Please, that’s going to worsen your situation. I drink almost 8 to 10 glasses of water daily.
  • Make good friends who understand and help you. I know it’s not that easy but not that tough as well. Till the time you find someone write your thoughts into your diary.
  • I have lots of love for music and songs. Whenever I am alone I make sure I put on my favorites songs and Yes, I dance on them as well.

I don’t regret going through a bad phase in my important days but I will regret if I don’t help anyone going through it. I know its hard but just one step and you will be back to the life again.

Will write more on how to get a better sleep and get up on time when suffering from bad mental health.

 

home exercise, post pregnancy, postpartum, weight loss

How do I #getbacktoshape post pregnancy!

I lost some ten kgs in about 3 months just by following few diet tips and floor exercises at home. Being a mom it’s often tough to do things for self and leave your baby and go to gym unless you have a very strong support system. Unfortunately I have no support system which will allow me to leave my baby and get out to the gym, so I started doing my own exercises and managing my diet.

Five point which will help you in weight loss:

  • Drink water not caffeine.
  • Drink your food, yes I said it right. When you add extra water to your soup or milk it will not only full your stomach but will help you in not taking those extra calories.
  • Eat a good breakfast. Eating what you like in your breakfast will make your day energetic and full of happiness but if possible avoid oily and sugary stuff.
  • Do some 30-40 mins of floor exercise at home and get out with your baby for morning and evening walk.
  • Do your dinner before sunset. Yes and it helps a lot to get #backtoshape.

Follow this routine for about a month and then increase your exercise time slowly.

Stay connected to know what all exercises we should do  at home to get a fit and healthy body back.

divorce, kid, marriage

When talking is not a solution in marriage after kid.

Often some marriages go through a phase when talking is not a solution. A friend of mine went through divorce after her delivery only because she was unable to handle pressure. With the new member addition to the family our life often takes a back seat.

With my experience I can say giving time to the partner is very important. After my delivery I was fully involved with my baby and whatever time I use to get other than this either I use to sleep or do household works. Me and my husband was very happy with everything but I lost my best friend in him. There started fights and silence zone in my house which never happened in last nine years of my marriage.

I realised although we both are giving 100% to the baby but we are not giving time to each other.  Very important is that you don’t forget each other. Life will move on with many things but partner and his feelings are very important. I saved my marriage by fixing this very soon.

  • In some cases we are too late to handle this and talking to don’t help. In that case take help of friends and family. Talk to them and ask them how can they help. Ask them if they can keep your baby for some hours so that you can go out and give time to each other.
  • Cook for each other, help in household work. Share the responsibilities. Many thing you can do together which not only give you some time together but also will help you in strong bounding.
  • Most important is give importance to each other. Make them feel special.
  • Get out to some romantic destination if possible or some favorite place of yours.

If you guys still love each other and think time will solve this don’t be panic and enjoy the phase.