family, Feelings, kid, Kids, Life, parents, secondkid

Why plan for the second kid?

There are many reasons why we are not planning for a second kid, at the same time we are having some reasons to plan for a second kid too.

I have been raising my son alone with some help from my husband, of course, I understand how difficult is it to raise a toddler and what all a parent goes through but believe me the joy of raising a happy and healthy kid is unmatched with anything else in this world.

Some points why I will intend for a second kid?

  • My son will have a company during his growing age. Yes, I understand the importance of siblings. I being raised up with siblings know how important this relationship is. They taught all I need to know to survive in this world. Wherever I feel or I need I have another set of people whom I can call and depend upon. This is a different kind of love. I don’t want my son to miss this aspect of life and relationship.
  • I understand the importance of sharing, love, and respect. These all I learned while growing with my siblings and not in the school. Of course, we get to learn them in school too but the way we learn them with our siblings is totally different and for the lifetime.
  • Your kid will have an extended family after parents are no longer in the world. Yes, it’s not only about us it’s about them too. My son will have an extended family when I am not around.
  • Life is very unpredictable and so we should always plan in advance. Having a single child is full of risk in either way. If something goes wrong with the kid then parents have no support and vice versa is true too.
  • Of course, finance is one of the reasons we are not planning for a second one but nowadays the government is helping and providing basic support which is important during raising the kid.

So, think before you make your mind for not having the second kid and before its too late to plan one!

Cheating, Kids, marriage

Cheating in marriage

Are you staying with a partner who have no interest in you and you guys are only staying together for your kids. Might be true or maynot be.

I have a friend of mine let me call her ‘Snow’. Snow has a very good marriage till she discovered her husband was cheating on her. He use to chat/call multiple girls and even visit them. She was broken and wanted separation but she had a year old daughter because of which she wanted all to be fine and get her husband back. She was ready to forgive him. Things were not good but because of family pressure and kids they gave their marriage a second chance.

They had another kid after few years and after getting this news I thought all must be good but then all was not. Snow was still compromising and her husband was not serious for their relationship. Now she is making her mind to come out of this relationship and to only think about herself. She thought about her kids and gave her relationship a second chance.

I was never supported her decision of giving her relationship a second chance but I too understood not giving a chance will be not good for her kid.

What to do when we have a similar situation? Relax and talk to your partner. Make sure you tell him what is troubling you and is he ready to give up his habit which is troubling you and your relationship. If you find things are not going as you were expecting then involve people from family and friends. There are marriage counselors and you should talk to them.

All is fine but make sure you see love in your relationship. If love is missing you are probably in a wrong relationship. It might be a hard decision for you but you have to let it go.

Write me your experiences and let me know what you think of a marriage without love but with kids.