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Why plan for the second kid?

There are many reasons why we are not planning for a second kid, at the same time we are having some reasons to plan for a second kid too.

I have been raising my son alone with some help from my husband, of course, I understand how difficult is it to raise a toddler and what all a parent goes through but believe me the joy of raising a happy and healthy kid is unmatched with anything else in this world.

Some points why I will intend for a second kid?

  • My son will have a company during his growing age. Yes, I understand the importance of siblings. I being raised up with siblings know how important this relationship is. They taught all I need to know to survive in this world. Wherever I feel or I need I have another set of people whom I can call and depend upon. This is a different kind of love. I don’t want my son to miss this aspect of life and relationship.
  • I understand the importance of sharing, love, and respect. These all I learned while growing with my siblings and not in the school. Of course, we get to learn them in school too but the way we learn them with our siblings is totally different and for the lifetime.
  • Your kid will have an extended family after parents are no longer in the world. Yes, it’s not only about us it’s about them too. My son will have an extended family when I am not around.
  • Life is very unpredictable and so we should always plan in advance. Having a single child is full of risk in either way. If something goes wrong with the kid then parents have no support and vice versa is true too.
  • Of course, finance is one of the reasons we are not planning for a second one but nowadays the government is helping and providing basic support which is important during raising the kid.

So, think before you make your mind for not having the second kid and before its too late to plan one!

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Having a single child but why?

Have you ever thought of having the second child? Nowadays whoever I meet or the majority of us plan for a single child with some excuses for not having the second one. I got a chance to study some of the cases and understand what makes them take this decision and their reasoning behind it.

 

 

  1. Nuclear family. No support or very little support from the family. As we are moving to the new world culture of joint family is vanishing and it’s becoming only the responsibilities of the parents to look after the kid with no or less support. Although few parts of the world nuclear family are very common then they know how to adjust to it. Hired helps are too expensive and thus don’t make much sense.
  2. Either of the parents has to leave the job and thus making the family depend on the single person earning. In maximum cases, I have seen this thus sacrifice of the carer involve and if you are planning to resume the job or work after a certain time when your kid grow to some age it becomes difficult to plan for the second kid.
  3. Expensive cost of living and planning of better future make them have a single kid.
  4. Pregnancy is a roller coaster ride, sometimes you will have good health and sometimes bad, mood swing and hormonal changes are very normal. Many female goes through a tough time during this phase and it becomes difficult to plan or make your mind go through it again.
  5. Many families are not lucky to have a normal child and thus fear to have to the same problem with the second child to make them rethink on their decision.

Reasons are many but having siblings have many positive effects on overall our growth and life. I being bought up with my cousins and siblings truly understand the need and importance of it. It adds to the value and our growth. So do think if your health, finances, and life allow you to have a second baby.