childrens, puberty, teenage, teenage problems

Teenage problems

Teenage is the most critical growth phase, as parents, we need to focus more on our kids in order to understand them. They face real concerns, between 11 and 18 years of age, on a daily basis as this is the most awkward growth stage of their lives. During this time, teens are exposed to some overwhelming external and internal struggles. They go through and are expected to cope with hormonal changes, puberty, social and parental forces, work and school pressures, and so on. Many teens feel misunderstood. Advances in technology mean today’s teens are facing issues that no previous generation has ever seen.

Some issues are not exactly new, electronic media has changed or amplified some of the struggles. We as a parent need to understand what all areas our kid needs our help and how can we make this phase of their growth smoother. Let’s see and try to understand what all problems teenagers are facing today:

The common teenage problems that teenagers face today are usually related to:

  • Self-Esteem and Body Image
  • Puberty
  • Stress
  • Bullying
  • Depression
  • Cyber Addiction
  • Drinking and Smoking
  • Teen Pregnancy
  • Underage Sex
  • Defiant Behaviors
  • Peer-Pressure and Competition
Life, menstruation cycle, periods, puberty

Talking about puberty?

When I got my first period I was knowing nothing about it and was so scared to see the blood. Yes, normally parents miss to tell their daughters and get them ready for it. My parents were missing this knowledge and because of this, they missed to get me ready for the very important phase of my life.

Every single parent had gone through this phase during their puberty and they know how does it feel? It’s an important work for all the parents to make their child know about this change. Not only body but their thinking pattern too changes, in short, it is physical and emotional changes which indivisible go through.

Most important don’t ignore this thinking you will see what can be done once menstruation cycle starts? Let your child know about this much before. Tell her the changes which her body will go through once period cycle hits her. What should be the first thing which parents should tell their kids related to this?

How do you as a parent going to start making your child ready for this coming phase in their life?

Few tips on how to make your child ready for this phase:

  1. Strike conversation related to the changes in their life. Take them out to their favorite place or sit with them and tell them what is puberty?
  2. How is puberty going to affect them? Tell your child your story of Puberty and how you had dealt with that?
  3. Tell her what the importance of the menstruation cycle?
  4. Let them know about the changes which their body will go through, also tell them about hormonal changes which they will go through. Clear all her doubts and be very patient with her questions.
  5. Give them some book to read and clear their understanding about it. Tell her she is strong enough to deal with it.
  6. Give her all the moral and emotional support.

 It may take a few appointments before you can make her understand completely about this but this approach will defiantly help. Secondly, it will make you more comfortable thinking your kid now understand what is going to happen instead of getting the sudden shock.

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Why plan for the second kid?

There are many reasons why we are not planning for a second kid, at the same time we are having some reasons to plan for a second kid too.

I have been raising my son alone with some help from my husband, of course, I understand how difficult is it to raise a toddler and what all a parent goes through but believe me the joy of raising a happy and healthy kid is unmatched with anything else in this world.

Some points why I will intend for a second kid?

  • My son will have a company during his growing age. Yes, I understand the importance of siblings. I being raised up with siblings know how important this relationship is. They taught all I need to know to survive in this world. Wherever I feel or I need I have another set of people whom I can call and depend upon. This is a different kind of love. I don’t want my son to miss this aspect of life and relationship.
  • I understand the importance of sharing, love, and respect. These all I learned while growing with my siblings and not in the school. Of course, we get to learn them in school too but the way we learn them with our siblings is totally different and for the lifetime.
  • Your kid will have an extended family after parents are no longer in the world. Yes, it’s not only about us it’s about them too. My son will have an extended family when I am not around.
  • Life is very unpredictable and so we should always plan in advance. Having a single child is full of risk in either way. If something goes wrong with the kid then parents have no support and vice versa is true too.
  • Of course, finance is one of the reasons we are not planning for a second one but nowadays the government is helping and providing basic support which is important during raising the kid.

So, think before you make your mind for not having the second kid and before its too late to plan one!

family, siblings, single child

Having a single child but why?

Have you ever thought of having the second child? Nowadays whoever I meet or the majority of us plan for a single child with some excuses for not having the second one. I got a chance to study some of the cases and understand what makes them take this decision and their reasoning behind it.

 

 

  1. Nuclear family. No support or very little support from the family. As we are moving to the new world culture of joint family is vanishing and it’s becoming only the responsibilities of the parents to look after the kid with no or less support. Although few parts of the world nuclear family are very common then they know how to adjust to it. Hired helps are too expensive and thus don’t make much sense.
  2. Either of the parents has to leave the job and thus making the family depend on the single person earning. In maximum cases, I have seen this thus sacrifice of the carer involve and if you are planning to resume the job or work after a certain time when your kid grow to some age it becomes difficult to plan for the second kid.
  3. Expensive cost of living and planning of better future make them have a single kid.
  4. Pregnancy is a roller coaster ride, sometimes you will have good health and sometimes bad, mood swing and hormonal changes are very normal. Many female goes through a tough time during this phase and it becomes difficult to plan or make your mind go through it again.
  5. Many families are not lucky to have a normal child and thus fear to have to the same problem with the second child to make them rethink on their decision.

Reasons are many but having siblings have many positive effects on overall our growth and life. I being bought up with my cousins and siblings truly understand the need and importance of it. It adds to the value and our growth. So do think if your health, finances, and life allow you to have a second baby.

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Career after child

I always thought I will get back to my work once my baby was born. Yes, I thought but now my baby is almost two years and I am still thinking. Leaving my good technical career of about eleven years was not easy but I have to do it as my child wanted me more. Most of us think this way and leave our work.

I am getting all the support which a partner can provide but still, I am not getting the confidence or you can say a punch to start my career once again. As I analyze what is the reason behind and I got a few points which are the blockers on my way. As I note them down so that if they are in your way too just knock them!

  • I am not motivated to start from where I left, all my colleagues are now way ahead of me and I may not accept but somewhere this is hurting me. Although taking the break and raising my baby was my decision but still. If you are thinking this then this is not the complete truth. Once you start working and in sometime you can match them.
  • People are less sensitive or you can say I am more sensitive to ask and show unnecessary sympathy.
  • Maybe what I was doing for so long for almost eleven years is now not motivating me and wants me to make or build something which motivates me and add value to my life.
  • I have a fear to start again. Yes, whatever I want to do whether it’s my job or my own business I have to start again with all the energy and with better time management skills.
  • Many thoughts are killing my energy which will push me to stand and run again. So dont think much just start. A small step will mater alot.

There are many reasons which I can come up of not starting but I just need one reason to start. Many studies shows females generally give up their career for kids and home. Its good to look after family and home but giving up the career should not be the option.

I decide to get backto my health and weightloss work and I hope many ladies get a chance to get back to work or start some thing which keeps them high and happy. At the end its about satisfaction of our work and we should not regrete not getting back to our work.

cheers

 

eating habits, fussyeater, mobile, toddlers, Uncategorized

My baby is a Fussy Eater!

As a mom, I am very worried about what my son is eating as he often rejects almost all the good and beneficial health food. His eating habits make me tired as I keep running after him with the bowl. Is this the right way to feed him or let me put it in a simple form ‘is the way I am feeding him is right?’. The answer is straight ‘No’.

Instead of running after your kid and forcing them to eat, with few of the tricks we can make them eat what we want! I have few of the tricks which keep helping me in feeding with less effort:

  • I pretend to eat instead of directly feeding him. I don’t offer him unless he asks for.
  • I have kept bowls of similar colors, and I too eat in the same bowl making him feel he is not eating anything different.
  • I make him sit on the dining table and allow him to eat on his own.
  • I combine fruits and vegetables in his favourite dishes or sometimes I add them in between of his favourite food.
  • I don’t keep him feeding for the whole day. I have made a timetable and based on that I serve him food.
  • I have made eating healthy a lifestyle, so we all as a family hardly eats anything which is bad for the health and thus if my toddler wants to eat from my plate I don’t mind passing it to him.
  • Try not to show them mobile or videos to make them eat, it may look easy at first to feed with mobile but not good for their eyes and mental growth.
  • Try to show them outside or engage them in a conversation while feeding, this too will help in mental and emotional growth.

With few changes to how we feed them, they eat something. As a mom or parent, you will be never satisfied with the nutrition your toddler is getting in their food but leaving them to eat on their own is the success to feed a fussy eater.